Posted by: joshjasper | June 5, 2009

Accountability is the new prevention

About a month ago Craigslist agreed to overhaul its policing of sex ads following a murder that occurred in Massachusetts.  This particular website has been often criticized for its “erotic services” section.

Fast forward to today’s news-the Chicago Tribune reported that a man in North Carolina posted an ad on this popular online classified website to fulfill his own fantasy by finding someone to rape his wife at knife point while he watched.  The ad was answered and his fantasy was fulfilled.

Where do I begin?  How remarkable is it that this sadistic person got a response from this ad?  Did he receive multiple responses?

I have made a commitment to myself not to post horrific story after horrific story on this blog without being solution oriented.  To simply report on everything that is wrong in our society would prove to be counterproductive and disempower those who want to create change.  With that said, let’s focus on accountability.  How many people will be harmed through this website before some sort of filtering system is created to ensure that at the very least, violence is not advertised?

The last sentence of the article read “Police are still looking for the attacker but aren’t saying whether he’ll face charges.”  Really?  The police can’t say that if they find the person that violently raped a woman for money that he will be charged with a crime?

As we know, without holding someone accountable for their actions, powerful, behavior changing messages are sent.  The message to the victim is clear: You do not matter.  The message to the perpetrator, even clearer: Your behavior is acceptable.



  1. Actually, the husband initiated contact with a couple of “adult services” providers or whatever they changed the name to, it wasn’t a matter of him putting an ad out asking for rapists.

    The reason they’re not sure about charges is because it’s probably very unclear what the man hired knew about the situation. I imagine the husband contacted him and asked if he’d be willing to fulfill “their” rape fantasy, which is not all that uncommon.

  2. B-

    Good point about the common occurrence of men and women hiring individuals to fulfill their fantasies and how the “hired hand” may not have been privy to what was actually taking place.

    Also, your newly updated e-mail is greatly appreciated and will be used to schedule future SRT responsibilities.

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